Is your marriage struggling today? Is your husband running in the wrong direction? Do the words affair, pornography, abuse of a certain kind and loneliness leave you sitting in shock, anger and hurt?
I know that husbands not running with Christ can make a marriage miserable, but God is giving you an opportunity to learn how to love unconditionally. The key is to model Christ and love Him, this will do a supernatural work in your husband. God will bring a blessing due to your faithfulness.
I was drawn to Christs unconditional love for my personal life through our marriage struggles. His unconditional love for me and my wrongs motivated me to climb some mountains steep mountains.
Every time I see this picture of my husband Dan and I took on July 4th, I laugh because my hubby has his hand across his heart as if he is standing to honor the flag, but no flag was in site. Dan must have been feeling the desire to celebrate freedom at that time! This picture was perfect for today's post because Dan and I have discovered freedom together and stand today with our hands over our hearts saying "Thank you God for helping us."
About 2 years into our marriage everything began to fall apart. I began to really look at my life. I remember sitting on my bed weeping in Keego Harbor, Michigan and saying "This is not what I wanted for my life" I had personal struggles and so did my husband. We both brought our baggage into the marriage. The burdens we both had individually weighed on each other and created pain and tension. The best way to avoid the pain was to run from it. We both ran in dangerous directions, hurting each other more.
My husbands mother was a strong Jesus lover! She pointed the direction out to where I needed to run. My husband was pointed in the right direction from his mama when he was in high school. However he made a choice to run in the opposite direction when he left home after school.
I remember the year I ran into Jesus. Not a religion but a true, real, live friend. He heard my cries in that Keego Harbor bedroom and he brought people along my path to point me to places I would find Him even more!
I was then motivated to have a better marriage and not walk away from the marriage.It was not easy but that was my desire. I only had desire friends, everything else was shattered around me.
Proverbs 13:12 "HOPE deferred(shattered) makes the heart sick BUT when a DESIRE comes, it is a tree of life."
It starts with only a DESIRE of what should and could be. This desire was the key that lead my husband and I running into the right direction. A desire to find truth.
1 Corinthians 7: 13-16
Today's verses say "For how do you know, O wife, whether you will save your husband? Or how do you know, O husband, whether you will save your wife?"vs13
"For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by his wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband."vs15-16
We may not see the impact on a daily basis what our witness has on others, especially those we live with since we see them everyday. But only through obedience and living a faithful testimony, will God work a wondrous work in your days.
Do you have the DESIRE to run in the right direction with God? Your desire could be the beginning of a new marriage.
When your running in the right direction your attitude and emotions change.
God will use your conduct to convict(prick at your husbands heart) and your hubby will see his wrong far better than you POINTING IT OUT! Let God convict him and he will change.
I am so glad God did not wake me everyday and POINT out my wrongs. I would feel smothered.
Your conduct should be opposite of your old life. Your conduct needs to be Christ-like. You should handle the problem opposite of what he expects. Example: If your husband does something stupid and he expects you to react the way you always do by screaming at him, then give him grace and mercy (not getting what he deserves and favor). These actions will convict and draw him to his senses.
Proverbs 12:14 "An EXCELLENT wife is a crown for her husband, But she who causes shame is like rottenness in his bones"
When the wrong is exposed and it crushes your heart, please through Christ ladies give support and love. I know this will be so hard but JUST DO IT!
The word NIKE in Greek means Victory or Conquering. So remember in your battle cry that with Christ you will have victory! Some days the run will seem impossible but do not give up. (You may need additional support and life care) I know many woman that had to separate from their loved ones for some time during the battle cry. God knows how to direct you. In some cases the husband may never return to the Lord and God will lead you in your way. The importance is making the decision God wants. We tend to make our life long decisions based on the emotion of the moment. If you are struggling in this area I want to pray for you. I understand the pain. I will pray for God to open doors for you so you can learn about the desire I have been talking about and then make the right decisions for you and your family! God has people positioned for you TODAY! Do not stay on your PRIVATE ISLAND.
Like everything in life, marriage is a huge spiritual battle but in Christ and through Christ you will see amazing things!
REMEMBER TODAY:
Avoid a foolish ignorant dispute it will only generate strife.
Be gentle and patient to the opposition
Believe big for your husband.
Believing Big,
